6 Things To Improve Your Kaneva Relationships

Posted on February 18, 2009. Filed under: Communication, Relationships | Tags: , , , , , |

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They blossom, they fall, they are always changing – your relationships on Kaneva.  There are many types of relationships that occur – the friendship, the temporary lust, the puppy love, the romance.  All of these types of relationships/interactions are similar to the real-world, except since we are in a digital space… they seem to move at the speed of light.

In this post I want to focus more on the romantic relationships.  I’m not a “love doctor” by any means, but I think I have some solid advice to offer.

1. Communicate

This is probably the biggest downfall of any relationship, but it is also what can be used to fuel the fires.  Communication is sooooooooooo very important.  Choosing the right words to describe how you feel, picking the right time to use these words, and making sure that you are consistent with them all play a huge role in how your relationship unfolds.

Don’t jump in too quickly with the “L-bomb”, people throw out the word “Love” a lot – and sometimes too quickly, involving feelings from the other party that might not be exactly what they expected.  I’m not saying you can’t find love or fall in love quickly – it happens.  Just be careful and be sure that you are using the term correctly.  People often confuse the pre-feeling of love (lust) with actually being in love.

Do tell the other person exactly how you feel, but make sure it’s not just a fleeting feeling of the moment.

Use as many forms of communication as possible… use Kaneva chat, Instant Messaging, Phone, Twitter, Kmail, Email… whatever you are comfortable with in your relationship at the time.

2.  Don’t sweat the small stuff

If you get mad about what you sig. other is doing or saying… think about it for a minute before you express your anger.  Try to decide if this is even really worth discussing.  So many fights are started about issues that in the grand scope of things are really insignificant.  If your partner is doing/saying something that really upsets you then read #3.

3.  Don’t get angry – discuss

It’s ok to tell someone that what they are doing is hurting you or upsetting you.  Just try to detach as much emotion as possible (which I know is extremely hard to do).  Try having a civilized discussion with them telling them how you feel and why you feel that way.  Don’t run circles around the issue since this just generally causes tempers to flair even more.

4.  Keep things interesting

Don’t do it by creating drama – Do it by creating surprise and intrigue.  Send a text or a kmail telling them how much you appreciate them when they don’t expect it.  Send out a blast with an inside joke that only they might get.  Plan out a Kaneva date for them and keep them entertained.

5.  Don’t be so fucking serious!

Joke with the one you call your own…. if you are serious all the time then you are just a stick in the mud… and no one is generally a fan of this.  If I can’t have fun with you because you are always being serious, then I won’t have fun in our relationship… I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way.

6. Compliments are complimentary

Don’t fish for compliments and don’t wait to compliment until your significant other says something nice to you.  Everyone likes to be told they look good or that they are the bees knees…. Compliment based on how you feel about the other person and don’t do it expecting something in return.  Be genuine and thoughtful and they should return the favor.

What’s your advice for having a good and strong Kaneva relationship?  Harleys, Char, Fur – I’m lookin at you guys here ;-)… let me know in the comments!

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Obliging Responsibilities As A Blogger – Thanks For The Link!

Posted on February 3, 2009. Filed under: advice, Communication, Fame, Kaneva Inc. | Tags: , , , , , , |

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Yesterday I noticed that this blog was actually linked to from the official Kaneva blog.  My first thought was… Wow, that’s pretty neat…. even though I bash on them a bit and use what might be considered “inappropriate language”, Kaneva, Inc. was able to look past this and see The Kanevian Blog as a great source of marketing… So, thank you Kaneva!

My next thought was, ok so now that I’ve actually become a source referenced by Kaneva maybe it’s time I become a more responsible (and smarter) blogger…. you know; doing things like making my posts a little more SEO friendly, moving the blog off of wordpress.com onto my own server, look into a site re-design, bust my ass to get more subscribers, and occasionally write about something that matters.

In this post, I decided to write about something that matters…. Child safety on the internet (or “internets” as I like to call it… hahaha, but seriously folks).  This is becoming a bigger and bigger topic on Kaneva and has always been a big topic since the internet become a household fixture for almost every family across the world.

The internet has many positives and great learning opportunities for children. However, there also the inherent danger of a communication channel that is very large and fast.

We’ve all seen the To Catch A Predator specials on Dateline NBC and know that the existence of child predators are all too real. Many of these internet dangers can be avoided and I would like to offer some tips to the parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, however you are that may have a child that uses your computer.

All of the suggestions below are recommended to be used together, not individually. Any kind of security (home, business, computer) work best in layers.

Use an Internet Filter

Many companies offer an internet filter that can be used to allow only the websites you would like your child to view. These filters can also be setup to monitor keystrokes your child makes on the computer and keep an extensive history of internet browsing history on your pc.

Companies, such as bsafe online (who come highly recommended by several ‘family values’ personalities) even offer integrated anti-virus and specific report features.

Internet filters are a great tool, however, kids are getting smarter with computers and may eventually figure out how to get around the filters (there is always a way to get the cheese from the mousetrap without getting caught). This is why I recommend other tactics for keeping your child safe online such as –

Location, Location, Location

Keep your computer in a “high traffic” area of your house. These areas could be

  • The family room
  • The living room
  • The kitchen
  • An office that is in an open location

Although a computer in a child’s bedroom may be okay for playing games or doing homework, this computer should not be connected to the internet.

If you have a child that is surfing the net, you should be able to see their computer screen with a quick glance. If you can’t, then it may be time to move your computer to another location of the house.

Laying Down The Law

Write up a list of rules for computer use and keep a copy of it next to the computer. Make sure you have read the rules over with your child and that they fully understand them, and the consequences for braking the rules. Also, have them sign a copy of the agreement to reinforce the importance of it (a good example of this agreement can be found on CNN’s website here).

You also will want to know who your children’s on-line friends are. You want to know who they are hanging out with in real life, why would this be any different on the computer?

Google Their Name

Google is a great tool for finding all sorts of things on the internet, including information about your child. Since social networking sites like myspace and facebook rank highly on search engines, there is a good chance you may be able to see your child’s personal page. By searching for their name, you might also see what type of personal information they may have gave out (you would be surprised at how much information you can get about someone if you have only their phone number).

Go ahead and play private-eye for a bit, the time spent may well be worth it.

As a side note about personal information on the internet:

If a site is specifically child oriented it must meet Federal Trade Commission guidelines. Find out if the sites they visit comply and what rules are in place. Under law, if a child is under 13, Web sites have to get parental permission to get personal information.

Who To Contact If You Think Your Child Might Have Been or Is Being Victimized.

Keeping your child safe online is one of those parental responsibilities that is new and always evolving. If you have any good advice for keeping children safe online, please post it in the comments below.

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Tips For Getting Your Ideas Heard

Posted on February 2, 2009. Filed under: advice, Communication, Kaneva Inc., Suggestions for Improvement | Tags: , , , , |

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The Virtual World of Kaneva recently launched Kaneva Ideas.  This new page is being used to help Kaneva understand what their members want and according to Coreli, is seen by top Kaneva Management.  The technology behind it is IdeaScale which allows users to post their ideas for improvement and then other users are able to vote the idea up or down and leave comments (positive, negative, or adding to the suggestion).

I’ve recently spent some time checking out the new Kaneva Ideas page and have came up with a few suggestions for those submitting an idea.

1. Separate Ideas

If you have a whole list of things you would like to see added/improved/etc. don’t put them all in the same post.  If I like a few of your ideas but dislike most of them then I will end up voting down the entire thing.  This isn’t the government, don’t attach riders (I think that’s the correct term).

2. Spell Check

C’mon please make your idea make sense by using grammar and spell check… I can’t vote up your idea if I don’t understand it.  I get that English is a second language to a lot of Kaneva users, but some of the attempts at making a cohesive thought are just awful at best.  Spell check and grammar check before posting your idea PLEASE!

3. Title Bait

In the affiliate marketing/seo world there is a term known as “Link Bait” which means writing an article or creating a page that naturally attracts backlinks.  I need you to naturally attract my eyes to the title of your suggestion with Title Bait… If you are only using one word chances are I’m not going to read the rest of what you wrote (unless it is a powerful word that really stands out among the rest).  Also, if your title is misspelled there is a good chance that the rest of your idea won’t make any sense… therefore, why waist my time.

4. Market your idea

Don’t just stop with a post to Kaneva Ideas – Send out a blast with a link to your idea…. hell, pay for a highlighted blast… those really do work for grabbing attention.

5. Watch out for Bugs

This one is more of a tip for those voting… When I was voting on some ideas this morning I noticed that the system was a bit buggy… I would click to vote on something and it told me that I had already voted on it.  All I had to do was close the window and vote again.  Hopefully this bug will be resolved soon as it may affect the outcome of votes.

I would love to hear suggestions from the rest of you on how to get your idea noticed and voted up.  What do you like/dislike about the new system?  Let me know in the comments!

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I M teh Sexy

Posted on September 5, 2008. Filed under: Communication | Tags: , , , |

Anyone ever notice the over use of the word sexy in Kaneva?

Sexy People, Sexy DJ, Sexy <insert screen name here>, even Sexy Club….. Sexy Club – that almost doesn’t even make sense.  I personally believe that words can carry a lot of power.  Just look at all of the words considered taboo by different cultures.  However, the overuse or misuse of a word starts to remove power and/or meaning behind that word.  If you call everyone you see “Sexy”, guess what “Sexy” now turns into “Just Average”.

I see the point in trying to be nice to people on-line, but c’mon sometimes it’s just a little too much and it makes the people who do deserve whatever adjective you have in mind seem just like everyone else.  Below I have provided a list of words you could use other than sexy – remember, variety is the spice of life.

  • Beautiful
  • Gorgeous
  • Hot
  • Pretty
  • Handsome
  • Ravishing
  • Angelic
  • Charming
  • Radiant

You get the point!  And if you don’t…. let me give you an example:

SFNdust is hot.

All descriptions don’t have to be nice though – no one ever said you HAVE to be nice on Kaneva.  Some other not so nice adjectives are:

  • Ugly
  • Fat
  • Lazy
  • Smelly
  • Stupid
  • Dumb

Again, you get the point …. I’ll be nice and won’t use any examples here 🙂

It is my belief that if a more diverse and well thought out vocabulary is used by my fellow Kanevains, it just might add a whole new level of excitment to this game.

P.S. Please don’t try to read anything into this post like many people did on my last post.  You can just take this one for face value 🙂

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