6 Things To Improve Your Kaneva Relationships

Posted on February 18, 2009. Filed under: Communication, Relationships | Tags: , , , , , |

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They blossom, they fall, they are always changing – your relationships on Kaneva.  There are many types of relationships that occur – the friendship, the temporary lust, the puppy love, the romance.  All of these types of relationships/interactions are similar to the real-world, except since we are in a digital space… they seem to move at the speed of light.

In this post I want to focus more on the romantic relationships.  I’m not a “love doctor” by any means, but I think I have some solid advice to offer.

1. Communicate

This is probably the biggest downfall of any relationship, but it is also what can be used to fuel the fires.  Communication is sooooooooooo very important.  Choosing the right words to describe how you feel, picking the right time to use these words, and making sure that you are consistent with them all play a huge role in how your relationship unfolds.

Don’t jump in too quickly with the “L-bomb”, people throw out the word “Love” a lot – and sometimes too quickly, involving feelings from the other party that might not be exactly what they expected.  I’m not saying you can’t find love or fall in love quickly – it happens.  Just be careful and be sure that you are using the term correctly.  People often confuse the pre-feeling of love (lust) with actually being in love.

Do tell the other person exactly how you feel, but make sure it’s not just a fleeting feeling of the moment.

Use as many forms of communication as possible… use Kaneva chat, Instant Messaging, Phone, Twitter, Kmail, Email… whatever you are comfortable with in your relationship at the time.

2.  Don’t sweat the small stuff

If you get mad about what you sig. other is doing or saying… think about it for a minute before you express your anger.  Try to decide if this is even really worth discussing.  So many fights are started about issues that in the grand scope of things are really insignificant.  If your partner is doing/saying something that really upsets you then read #3.

3.  Don’t get angry – discuss

It’s ok to tell someone that what they are doing is hurting you or upsetting you.  Just try to detach as much emotion as possible (which I know is extremely hard to do).  Try having a civilized discussion with them telling them how you feel and why you feel that way.  Don’t run circles around the issue since this just generally causes tempers to flair even more.

4.  Keep things interesting

Don’t do it by creating drama – Do it by creating surprise and intrigue.  Send a text or a kmail telling them how much you appreciate them when they don’t expect it.  Send out a blast with an inside joke that only they might get.  Plan out a Kaneva date for them and keep them entertained.

5.  Don’t be so fucking serious!

Joke with the one you call your own…. if you are serious all the time then you are just a stick in the mud… and no one is generally a fan of this.  If I can’t have fun with you because you are always being serious, then I won’t have fun in our relationship… I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way.

6. Compliments are complimentary

Don’t fish for compliments and don’t wait to compliment until your significant other says something nice to you.  Everyone likes to be told they look good or that they are the bees knees…. Compliment based on how you feel about the other person and don’t do it expecting something in return.  Be genuine and thoughtful and they should return the favor.

What’s your advice for having a good and strong Kaneva relationship?  Harleys, Char, Fur – I’m lookin at you guys here ;-)… let me know in the comments!

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3 Responses to “6 Things To Improve Your Kaneva Relationships”

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Good pointers !
Love and Laughter is a key to our relationship..

Great blog entry; Dr. Ruth would be jealous of its quality! 🙂 As a related article, it would be great to read something on how to repair a Kaneva social relationship after you’ve annoyed everyone as a newbie.

Another good tip would be how to keep from appearing to be a STALKER to another Kanevian….hmmm…and now that we can see where everyone is, LOOK OUT! LMAO


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